Most of you would probably be familiar with the best selling book “Think And Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Many people have claimed that the book changed their thinking and have seen their personal wealth grow in abundance. If people can think and grow rich, then can people think and grow thin? Can thinking to be thin help you to lose weight or conversely, for thin people, help them to gain extra weight?
Ever since the released of Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret” DVD and book in 2006, The Law of Attraction (LOA), which is the main theme of her work swept the world by storm. If you are unfamiliar with the law of attraction, then the simplistic definition of the law of attraction is that you attract to you what are in your dominant thoughts and what you are focused on. In other words, thoughts become things. That means that you get what you think and focused on.
Of course there are more to it than just merely wishful thinking and if you want to know more, the internet is full of articles on the application of law of attraction.
Experts in the law of attraction such as Bob Proctor, John Assaraf, John Demartini and some others who appeared in “The Secret” explained that recent breakthroughs in neuroscience, quantum physics, metaphysics along with the understanding mental laws, reveal why the “law of attraction” and “positive thinking” work regardless of whether you look at the theory from a metaphysical or a scientific point of view in a Larry King show. Oprah Winfrey also explored this subject several times in her TV programs.
Scientists have long known that your subconscious mind is completely neutral and impartial and it will carry out any instructions the conscious mind give to it. In other words, you can use the law of attraction to attract love, to lose or gain weight, attract wealth, quit smoking or whatever you desire.
Unfortunately, most if not all of us are still running negative programs we picked up from others as children when our subconscious minds were very open, receptive and impressionable, or which we have developed over the years as a result of repetition of our own negative thinking and life experiences.
Yes, many of you may say to me now that you have been thinking of losing weight, but is still getting fatter and fatter. You see, when you are thinking of losing weight, you are using your conscious mind, but what is your subconscious mind thinking? Let me list a few examples :-
a) I am too fat, so I need to lose weight – This thinking cancels out each other. Yes, you want to lose weight, but you are also thinking about being fat. The law of attraction does not react to whether you want it or do not want it, it just delivers to you what you are thinking and focused on.
b) My family members are fat, so I am genetically programed to be fat – I don’t need to explain this further. This is a self limiting thought and guess what? If you think you are fat, then you are. Period.
c) I wish to be thin – Now merely wishing is not good enough, the law of attraction will just entertain your wish. You will always be wishing.
d) It is difficult to lose or gain weight – Then you will never lose or gain weight because it will always be difficult for you to lose weight.
So when you do not lose or gain weight even if you have always wanted to, it could be because of your self limiting subconscious thoughts. Some of these limiting thoughts are so embedded in your subconscious mind that you are not even aware that they are there.
Our own thoughts, when repeated often enough are programed into our subconscious mind and most of the time we do not even know that they are there sabotaging us. These thoughts then become our beliefs, habits and automatic behavior.
To change your results, you must overwrite the negative programming and instill new positive ones into your subconscious mind. If you are getting more of the same or negative results in your life such as not being able to attract more wealth, good health or the body shape that you desire, then you have probably been unconsciously running old negative programs and reinforcing them with daily negative thought patterns.
How do we get rid of limiting beliefs and negative thoughts then?
There are many techniques you can use to get rid of limiting believes and negative thoughts such as using goal setting, positive affirmations, meditations and creative visualizations. I will not describe in detail how these methods work here as many books and articles about them. However, from personal experiences, the best method is using self hypnosis.
What is self hypnosis? You see, instead of spending alot of money for a hypnosis therapist to help you find out your self limiting negative thoughts (there may be thousands of them) in your subconscious mind and re-program new positive thoughts into it, you can now do it yourself through self hypnosis sessions through CDs or MP3s. This will save you a lot of money and time.
So if you want to gain or lose weight to get the bodyshape you want, change your negative beliefs and insert positive ones and by the law of attraction, you will begin to attract events, people, books, food, circumstances etc to help you get the bodyshape that you want. Believe it and see the magic unfurl before you.
Chris Chew
http://www.articlesbase.com/sports-and-fitness-articles/you-can-gain-and-lose-weight-with-law-of-attraction-480388.html
18 Responses
Dirk B
2009 Oct 06 1After 15 years of marriage, wife's weight gain = loss of physical attraction. Help!!?
Don’t bother slamming me for this, I already feel like a heel about it. Unfortunately, I’ve been unable to make an inroad on my perceptions.
I love my wife dearly, and after so many years, I love her more than ever.
She has always been chunky, but I like women from slender to chunky.
She has recently gained a large amount of weight and has it is not a priority for her to lose it..
I love her dearly and do not want to hurt her, but her physical changes are becoming a significant problem for me, one that she has begun to notice as she questions me on why I’m not as ardent as I once was or why I don’t touch her as much anymore.
Is there any way at all that I can I tell her it’s due to the loss of physical attraction I’m feeling without hurting her?
Or am I doomed to live with it for the rest of our relationship?
Signed,
Disappointed In Myself
poodle mom
2009 Oct 06 2you need to tell her this…someway. try getting her to workout with you, or a membership to a gym. try to be very nice about it, but i agree with you…she needs to loose the weight
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free_angel
2009 Oct 06 3Suck it up and tell her there’s just more of her to love.
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vtx.1800retro
2009 Oct 06 4move to your own bedroon, your sex life is officially over my friend
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hi_stk_n
2009 Oct 06 5Talk to her and be supportive. Go on a diet with her, tell her it is for each of your overall health
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'' ... .. siMpLyCoMpLeX.
2009 Oct 06 6tell her about all the health risks of obesity such as heart problems and increased risk of a heart attack
tell that you really love her but her weight is very unattractive to you as it once was, and that you dont mean to hurt her
good luck
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*smile*
2009 Oct 06 7I don’t understand why people can’t tell each other how they feel anymore. Why is it so hard to say, "You quit taking care of yourself and it feels like you take me and my love for granted when you do that."
When you are married it is your duty to be the best person you can be to you spouse and kids, physically and mentally. I think it’s an insult when one gets too comfortable and let’s themselves go.
Truth be told you can’t want intimacy with someone find unattractive.
Tell her you want to be healthy together. Start doing active things together. Buy a treadmill. work out at home together and go for morning and evening walks.
Good Luck.
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nicja1705
2009 Oct 06 8I wish I could help but it seems no matter how you put it she might take it hard. Maybe make little hints like lets go for a walk it’s so nice. Or if you have a gym near by lets see who can go the longest or lift the most, or go swimming. If you have kids take them somewhere to play. As much as you find her unattractive you need to make the effort yourself to still be intimate with her, you can’t lose sight of that. You should set a good example by getting up and doing more, maybe she’ll follow
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CHUCK S
2009 Oct 06 9work out with her
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Bast
2009 Oct 06 10You’re not doomed. You just have to be honest with her. Maybe not telling her that you don’t find her attractive anymore but that you wish she’d lose weight. Maybe the two of you could exercise and diet together. If she feels like you’re with her 100% on it she’ll be more likely to give it a shot and to succeed. A nice way of putting it would be to tell her that you want the two of you to get healthy again together. Good Luck. Remember that is still that same woman that she was the day you got married that sexy goddess you married that could get you all riled up. She’s still the same her packaging has just gotten a little different.
Best of Luck my friend to you and your wife. Bless you for not wanting to hurt your wife.
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The Eternal Squire
2009 Oct 06 11Enduring joint mortality is part of the price of marriage.
Both people in a couple gain weight as they age. Tell me, have you lost any teeth? Developed any moles? Grey hair? Hair in unacceptable places? Gingivitis?
You will simply have to accept her the same way she accepts you. I would suggest counseling so that you can learn how.
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karen
2009 Oct 06 12You probably need to say something to her. I delt with the opposite. My husband got so skinny , he had a 27 inch waist and I could see his bones!! I didn’t want to have sex with him either. I finally said something and he was trying to put weight on. He finally is at a 34 inch waist where he should be. Either way, too skinny, or too fat, it is best to just say something.
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headbanger756
2009 Oct 06 13Easy. Next time she asks you "Does this dress make me look fat?", just look her square in the eye, and tell her "No dear, YOU are fat." And remember, shes chunky, so she can’t run as fast as you. Heehee
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josephineoftheswamps
2009 Oct 06 14Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can without hurting her feelings… Maybe you could lead the way by example??? start cooking the meals at home a few times a week and making them healthy and low fat… say that ‘you’ want to lose some weight… also maybe start going to the gym or afternoon walks. If you are already within a healthy weight range, or on the lower side, you could say you want to become healthier now that you are getting older your body is starting to feel it?? or something like that…
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bob
2009 Oct 06 15Maybe you can start a progressive health / exercise regimen you two can do together.
Start by walking together.
Help her cook or suggest healthy meal ideas when you eat together.
Work up to something like "I’m concerned about men my age starting to get prostate cancer and stuff, hon, and I want to go to the gym…. but I don’t want to go alone. " Would you go with me once a week? (Then, twice a week… yadda yadda)
If you already go to the gym, then you can explain to her that you miss her when you see other couples up there and that you would like a partner at the gym.
Good luck.
But bottom line, "for better or worse" were the vows.
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Maureen S
2009 Oct 06 16I had surgery last year and my hormones were a mess afterwards. The doctor put me on Effexor and in six months I put on 20 pounds. My husband hated it. He tried to tell me he was worried about my health but I knew he was having trouble with the way I looked. And the more he commented on something I was eating, the more I wanted to eat. I resented that for the first time in 28 years, I’m a little heavy and he is giving me a hard time.
There is nothing anyone could have said to me to make me work on losing the weight. I was not ready emotionally. Please don’t comment to your wife in a negative way. Don’t mention joining a gym, she’ll see through you. All it is going to do is upset her. I lost the weight when I was ready to lose it and she will too. If you are asking for advice, coming from someone who has been there, bring her flowers. Tell her how beautiful she is. How lucky you are to be married to her. If she feels good about herself, she will want to look good too. I find myself being annoyed that you are no longer attracted to her. Can’t you look past the body and see the good heart?
P.S. Lost 30 pounds with the help of Weight Watchers. Husband very happy.
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num1dray
2009 Oct 06 17I don’t have the answer for you, i am in the same boat. exactly. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 years, and we just got married his year. even though i am not attracted to her i still love her and know we will always be together. i am very athletically built and attractive to women, but my wife has let herself go. she is not the woman i fell in love with (physically), but is the best woman i have ever had. i guess I’m saying when you get your answer let me know!!
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Theresa M
2009 Oct 06 18tell her that being overweight is bad for her health and you love her so much that you do not want anything to happen to her.
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